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During this time I let a co-work in on some of what was happening in my life. I didn't tell her all of it because it's private but I didn't want to leave her in the dark that I may be leaving. I keep in touch with this co-work during my time off via Facebook and texting. Per my doctor's orders I just focused on getting the right medications and healing.
When I announced that I would be returning to work, I got a text from my co-worker that it was "good that I would be coming back" and if I was "excited to return". I told her the truth and stated "I had become spoiled by being a temporary stay at home mom and would miss my son". She text back she "thought I would just stay home after my leave". I texted her that "I did not have to go back to work but I wanted to give it a try". From there she stated that "work was work" and she did not get it. I replied I did not "expect her to understand but that it was okay".
Well my return to work was luke warm to say the least. I've jumped back in to my role and picked up my old work routine. This co-worker did not say a word to me upon my first day back and she has barely said a sentence to me in the past three weeks! Even more so, the people I least expected were the first to welcome me back. At first my feelings were hurt. This was a co-worker who had been to my house, celebrated my son's first birthday with me, went to each other's parties, and had weekly lunches with me.
Needless to say I was stumped as to why I got the cold shoulder. I'm not sure where I went wrong or what I could have possible done to upset her. I told my DH about this and he just told me not to worry about it because she just showed me that she really wasn't my friend in the first place. He stated she may be jealous that I have the option to be a stay at home mom.
I tried to be the bigger person and take the first step by texting her over the weekend wishing her a Happy Mother's day. No reply.
Found some box tops in my pantry, of which her kid collects, and gave them to her the next morning. Reply "thanks I still collect these for big prizes".
Either way, I am done going through the "What if's" or 'Why's" running in my head. I have better things to spend my time on than this issue. (But still it kinda stings a little bit). Should I try harder or just give up and chalk it up as loss?
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ReplyDeleteI think your co-worker is jealous that you can choose to stay at home or work. Sometimes people are just weird. Good for you for reaching out to her anyway.
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I think it definitely sound like she is jealous, and that's pathetic. I agree with your DH, she is obviously not a true friend and you did take some steps to try and connect with her. I say forget her! No sense in worrying over a lost cause :)
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Chalk it as a loss - but hers, not yours.
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Thank you ladies for the kind comments. It makes me feel better that its not all in my head and that I can walk away from this friendship knowing that I tried.
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Hi there! I'm a stay-at-home mom and I definitely encounter a lot of people that treat me differently b/c of it. In fact, a lot of them put me down about it, but I just chalk it up to plain old jealousy. I think the majority of women would like the option to stay home with their kids but they can't b/c of financial reasons, so it stings a little when they find out one of their friends can. If I were you, I'd still be kind to this co-worker, but leave it up to her to reconnect with you on a friendship level, if she ever does.
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